I still cannot believe that we actually came to some sort of agreement on a Bible verse's meaning. You had better be careful, more then one person has set out to prove the Bible wrong and ended up joining the team. ;o)
I'd hate to be a hypocrit who talks about reason and logic but then dismisses an argument because of my emotional position. If it's a good argument, it's a good argument. Coming from a legal background, I can appreciate interpretation problems.
You're getting a bit carried away about whether it proved the Bible wrong or not though....it was just a question of whether a particular law was:
(a) evil; or
(b) a typical example of tribal law of its time in terms of the control of sexuality and women as the property of men.
You would have a very tough task convincing me that it was a good law, or in particular the product of an all powerful all loving and just God. I would see it as recording tribal law of the time, and not really anything pronounced by any God.
As for joining the team....I was brought up in a Christian household and did my best to subscribe to it all for fifteen years or so. Unfortunately as I became old enough to think for myself it simply didn't stack up to me, for reasons I've set down at length in other forums. Reading bits of the Old Testament was the start of the crack....if I remember rightly it was an episode where God tells King David not to marry a woman called Bathsheeba that he had previously had an adulterous relationship with (and had arranged for her husband to be killed in battle so he could marry her). David does anyway because he loves her. Ok...he's clearly gone too far in arranging the husband's death and deserves to be punished. But as punishment what do you think happens to David?
God kills their innocent baby, that's what. God takes his time and uses seven days to do the job despite fasting and pleading from David.
It also seems that God had David's wives taken out and raped in broad daylight, although nothing more is said about that than what is below, whereas the murder of the baby is covered in more detail:
11Thus saith the LORD, Behold, I will raise up evil against thee out of thine own house, and I will take thy wives before thine eyes, and give them unto thy neighbour, and he shall lie with thy wives in the sight of this sun.
12For thou didst it secretly: but I will do this thing before all Israel, and before the sun.
13And David said unto Nathan, I have sinned against the LORD. And Nathan said unto David, The LORD also hath put away thy sin; thou shalt not die.
14Howbeit, because by this deed thou hast given great occasion to the enemies of the LORD to blaspheme, the child also that is born unto thee shall surely die.
II Samuel 12, 11-14 (and the child does die)
David did wrong................so God kills their child? Has his wives - ie innocent women - taken out and raped in public? That shook me to the core and made me re-evaluate the Bible completely. How many of us would, if we found our neighbour guilty of some heinous offence, decide that murdering the neighbour's child or raping his (other) wives (probably only in Utah) would be sufficient penalty? (Let's leave aside whether having more wives is already punishment enough)
Reading the Old Testament with fresh eyes was enough to see that the God of the Old Testament is a thoroughly evil deity. God then swops personalities for a while in the New Testament, before dropping back into character to end with a bloodbath of epic proportions in Revelations (billions die, instead of just getting on with it and judging everyone). Suddenly I was looking beyond the battle stories and noticing for the first time the resulting slaughters of non-combatants and the division of surviving virgin girls as the spoils of war.
Personally I simply could not reconcile the alleged qualities of the diety (love, justice, mercy, all knowing, all powerful) with the events of the Bible and the way the world and the creatures within it have actually been put together. What kind of a personality murders a baby out of spite that its father disobeyed them?
On the other hand, if you view the OT as a mixture of myths and some history and as a bunch of priests doing what priests have done to obtain wordly power from time immemorial, and regard the NT as the philosophy of several fairly remarkable but otherwise mortal men (the nonsense of Revelations aside), then it all makes reasonable sense and you can cherry-pick the best bits.